Many years ago, I joined a group to help me lose weight. I signed up, got the materials, stayed for the meeting, had the program explained to me and went home. The next morning, I started following the “diet.” Six months later I had reached my “goal weight.”

I had succeeded.

Today, more than 30 years later, most of that weight is still off. The number on the scale is different and I have adopted habits and lifestyle changes that have made me a stronger, healthier person. But when I started my weight loss journey it was strictly about the number on the scale. 

If the number went down one week, then all was good. If the number went up, then I had failed.

Success and failure were tightly wound into a single measurement. It was all tied to the “diet” and the scale.

While I have kept the weight off for a long time it was years before I adopted an attitude of a healthy lifestyle and let go of the “diet” mentality. I had to release the attitude where success and failure were measured by a single number on the dreaded scale.

It was years before I discarded that flawed vision of success.

These days I measure my success differently. How my clothes fit, how I feel physically, and how many days of exercise I get in a week are just of few of the measurement tools I currently use. And these days I remind myself that my plans for my future are not really in my control. I wear a bangle with this verse inscribed on it: “For I know the plans I have for you,” declares the Lord, “plans to prosper you and not to harm you, plans to give you hope and a future.”  Jeremiah 29:11 It is important to put this verse into context. Verse 10 reads, “For Yahweh says, After seventy years are accomplished…”

There may be trouble before we see success. And it may be a long time before we feel there we have hope and a future. 

But HOPE and a FUTURE are possible.

We are now in the fourth week of the new year. We may have had great dreams and visions of making this year different. But things have not gone as we had hoped and planned. We think we have failed. We have not failed. We just have to regroup and start over.

There are three verses that might help you continue with your goals, get started with your goals or start over.

  1. Jeremiah 29:11 referenced above reminds us that God has a hope and a future for us. But we have to be patient.
  2. Psalm 5:3 “In the morning, Lord, you hear my voice; in the morning I lay my requests before you wait expectantly.” Begin every day with a few minutes of prayer, quiet time and reflection.
  3. Philippians 3:13-14 “Brothers and sisters, I do not consider myself yet to have taken hold of it. But one thing I do: Forgetting what is behind and straining toward what is ahead, I press on toward the goal to win the prize for which God has called me heavenward in Christ Jesus.” Each day is a new day to begin again. We cannot change the past, but we can most definitely change our future.

We don’t want to go through life with our success or failure tied to one thing or idea. Hopefully, by remembering these verses and incorporating them into our daily routine they will help us to not feel defeated and discouraged.

22 Because of the Lord’s great love we are not consumed,
    for his compassions never fail.
23 They are new every morning;
    great is your faithfulness.
24 I say to myself, “The Lord is my portion;
    therefore I will wait for him.”

Lamentations 3:22-24

Don’t lose sight of the fact that each new day brings a fresh beginning, a new start, a “do-over.” And all of us need a “do-over” occasionally!

Mary Bonner
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In the beginning, Mary Bonner usually share the basics. Married to her best friend John for 30+ years. A grown son & a beautiful new daughter-in-law. Currently living in the Northeast, but a part of her heart is in the Midwest. When you move on to deeper subjects, she may share about some of the heartbreaks she’s experienced. The loss of a child and a parent, or a debilitating illness. But through it all, one thing remains constant: The Lord’s comfort, peace and strength. God used the tragedies of life that threatened to bankrupt her family and instead used them to deepen her faith and change her for the better. She loves to cook, entertain and share a glass of wine with friends and believes a stranger is just a friend she hasn’t met yet. You can find her on Facebook, Twitter and Instagram and writing at
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    Bron Rapp

    Thank you Mary for directing my focus back onto our Faithful and Trustworthy God.

    January 24th, 2018 13:09
    • Mary

      You’re welcome, Bron. Thank you for your comment.

      January 25th, 2018 7:15
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    Angie Clark

    Ms Mary

    I am 57 years old I suffer from PSTD (Trauma depression) I have been to a therapist (few of them) I also have ADHD (learning disorder) I am disable I also am the black sheep of my family both sides all this and I refuse to give up or give in what I am saying is I do let stuff get to me and I want to stop doing that my goals are not being reach due to I let the devil used my weakness I want to get back on track with my life with God in my life I know I can’t nothing with out him I know his Grace and Mercy will see me through this hard time I also know hat this battle is not mine its the Lord he is my rock I want my light to shine brighter then ever before not just dim I thank for taking the time out to read my message sorry if I wrote to much thank you in advance for your help you be safe as well as be blessed

    June 30th, 2021 13:29

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