“If you are a dreamer, come in,
If you are a dreamer, a wisher, a liar,
A hope-er, a pray-er, a magic bean buyer…
If you’re a pretender come sit by my fire
For we have some flax-golden tales to spin.
Come in!
Come in!” 

-Shel Silverstein


My heart bursts right open dripping holy joy when we have people over for dinner. To have people, broken from this world we sojourn in, sit at my table. First we break open bread then we break open our hearts.

Something miraculous seems to happen when I share a meal in my home or someone else’s home. Sometimes it’s laughter that turns the sharp harshness of the world into a delicate watercolor haze.

Sometimes it’s a simple story that evolves into heartache and then maybe some tears. Which then becomes space where the gentle Lamb comes and mends us.

There we are, eating food and eating each other’s stories.

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But I’m learning that first, we invite. And I’ve been learning what it really means to invite someone into my home.

At it’s heart, an invitation is not a request for someone to come enjoy you and what you have to offer, but instead for your guests to come and be enjoyed. To be seen. To be fed full up so they can forget about the necessity to eat and truly rest in the importance of taking a deep breath.

The root of the word “invite” also means, “to summon” and even, “name given.”

It’s weighty. Which is not the same as burdensome. An invitation can reach out deep into the heart of someone and say, “I know your name. I’d love for you to come into my home. With my people. Come as you are. We’ll be waiting for you as we are.”

Inviting can be vulnerable. For one, maybe no one will show up. I think we all have that story.

You know who else has that story? Jesus. As told by the parable in the banquet. (Matthew 22:2-14). In which the king invited all his guests but when the time came for the party, his guests sent their excuses instead of their bright burning hearts.

But it is ok, invite anyway. Especially in this cold, bumbling December. Because maybe someone desperately needs to hear their name called by someone other than their taunting thoughts. Maybe someone needs to remember the blood that runs quick in their veins is rushing to the cadence of the stories in their lives. And that story of theirs is worth sharing. Worth being listened to.

Believe me when I say inviting can be an act of trust. Trusting God about who to reach out to. Trusting God with who He will bring.

I think it is brave to invite.

You invite others. But you also invite yourself.

Do not forget to invite yourself. To step into the kitchen and cook a meal but to also step into the presence of everyone in your home. You ladle out the soup and then you listen to the story. Invite yourself to love fully, the guests in your home. To lay down your own insecurity. Invite yourself to look someone in the eye when they speak.

Who is it that God might want you to invite into your home this December? It might be someone you didn’t expect. Invite them anyway. It might be someone you don’t know well. Invite them anyway.

Or even, it might be someone who will bring awkwardness and a big heart mess. Definitely invite them.

How sweet a gift your invite can be. And then, just maybe, God will give you space to share & remind your guests that someone greater than you invites them to His table too.

White Chicken Chili
Serves 4
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Prep Time
20 min
Cook Time
30 min
Total Time
50 min
Prep Time
20 min
Cook Time
30 min
Total Time
50 min
  1. 1 rotisserie chicken, meat shredded
  2. 1 medium onion, chopped
  3. 1-1/2 teaspoons garlic powder
  4. 1 tablespoon coconut oil
  5. 1 can (15-1/2 ounce) great northern beans, rinsed and drained
  6. 1 cup frozen corn
  7. ¼ cup white wine or chicken broth
  8. 2 cups chicken broth
  9. 4 ounces fresh roasted and chopped green chilies (or 1 4oz can chopped green chilies)
  10. 1 teaspoon salt
  11. 1 teaspoon ground cumin
  12. 1 teaspoon dried oregano
  13. ½ teaspoon pepper
  14. ¼ teaspoon cayenne pepper
  15. 1 cup plain greek yogurt
  16. ½ cup heavy whipping cream
  1. 1. In a large soup pot saute the onion until translucent, about three minutes.
  2. 2. Add shredded rotisserie chicken and garlic powder. Stir together and then add in the white wine (or ¼ cup chicken broth) to deglaze the pan. Let saute for another two minutes.
  3. 3. Add the beans, corn, broth, chilies and seasonings. Bring to a boil. Reduce heat; simmer, uncovered, for 30 minutes.
4. At this point you can taste and add salt or pepper if needed and serve just like this. But for a super creamy chili
  1. 5. Remove from the heat; stir in greek yogurt and cream. Serve!
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Bri McKoy is a writer and an accidental lover of cooking. Marriage brought with it bliss. And a budget. So she began to step into the kitchen every evening and quickly discovered this is her art. She found that her food was a glue that allowed space for stories and rich community. Therefore she created and owns where she shares her recipes and the stories that come from her kitchen. She is also the leader of Compassion Bloggers and is passionate about giving bloggers an opportunity to use their platform to advocate for children in poverty.
  • Robin Dance


    A thousand times YES! We NEED those who are willing to invite because too many aren’t! (forgive my overuse of exclamation points but you’ve plucked a nerve 🙂 ). I had some neighbors over a while back and one of them remarked, “It is so nice to be asked to someone’s home…” She’s lived her 10x longer than me but is rarely invited into a home. I didn’t make a fancy lunch, I just wanted some company and to get to know my neighbors better and it was WONDERFUL. Starting over (again) in a new place makes me brave; if I don’t initiation, I could easily become paralyzed with loneliness and fear. So…I take a bold step, and invite. And the results have been incredible.

    Thank you for penning such a lovely message and reminding us about the way of Jesus. Your heart is big, sweet friend, and I do long to know you at your table :).

    December 12th, 2014 13:00
    • Bri McKoy

      Robin! Such a sweet note of encouragement! I am so grateful for you. And I am filled to the brim with joy that you practice this art of inviting. It got lost somehow over the years…
      You are a gift, friend. Love, love your heart!!

      December 12th, 2014 14:23
  • Beth

    Echoing Robin’s comment . . . A thousand times YES. This place and all your words have been such an encouragement to me to invite others to our table. Thank you. Loved, loved, loved this post.

    December 12th, 2014 13:44
    • Bri McKoy

      Thank you so much, Beth! Grateful for your encouragement. What grace it is to me!

      December 12th, 2014 14:23
  • Barbie

    Thank you for your beautiful words, and I LOVE white chicken chili!

    December 12th, 2014 14:56
  • Kris Camealy

    I am so grateful for your words here today, Bri. Your heart is so beautiful, and I appreciate the challenge to INVITE. It’s harder than it sounds, but so worthwhile… Thank you for sharing this with us.

    December 12th, 2014 16:32
  • christie elkins.

    This is so beautiful! And cannot wait to serve the recipe to my family!

    December 14th, 2014 18:30
  • Traci Rhoades

    Some of my very best memories with friends are around a table. My table. Their table. I am in awe over your discovery that the root word “invite” means “name given.” That speaks into our hospitality so much. It gives worth.

    December 15th, 2014 15:26
  • Aimee

    This is my new favorite White Chicken Chili recipe…I’ve looked at many and this is the best 🙂 Very cold and rainy…can’t wait to make it again this evening.

    February 15th, 2016 13:35

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