Every year this time of year, I find myself in a rut. The days are gray and I’m weary of cold weather. The buzz of the holidays has quieted and the change of routine that comes with summer seems far off. It’s a season filled with writing and work, causing the days to blur.

My table becomes a metaphor for my life. In the past few months, my crockpot has cooked countless soups, stews and whole chickens. I’ve eaten citrus almost every day to meet recommended daily fruit intake. Sweet potatoes and Brussel sprouts have abounded in our table.

As I’m tired of the foods of the season, I’m restless with my day-to-day life. Though I’m surrounded by nourishing and delicious foods and my days are filled with goodness and beauty, I’m bored.


Food writer and Episcopal priest Robert Farrar Capon describes my problem this way:

“Our response to… loveliness is not always delight: It is, far more often than it should be, boredom. And that is not only odd, it is tragic; for boredom is not neutral – it is the fertilizing principle of unloveliness.”

The past few weeks, I’ve tasted that odd tragedy described by Capon. As I’ve grown bored, unloveliness has followed. Meals have become a mindless routine of scrounging in the fridge, simply looking for something to fill my hungry stomach instead of marveling at the goodness of God’s provision. My days are filled with checking boxes off of my to-do list instead of numbering my days with wisdom and grace.

I know my problem and I see the chasm between where I am and where I want to be. I don’t know how to get to where I want to be.

Cultivating Loveliness

“In such a situation, the amateur – the lover, the man who thinks heedlessness is a sin and boredom a heresy – is just the man you need,” explains Capon. “The world may or may not need another cookbook, but it needs all the lovers – amateurs – it can get. It is a gorgeous old place, full of clownish graces and beautiful drolleries, and it has enough textures, tastes, and smells to keep us intrigued for more time than we have.”

I can’t simply think my way out boredom (I’ve tried!). As Capon alludes, I need to cultivate my loves for this glorious creation and the life God has given me. So I will re-order my daily routines.


Instead of thoughtlessly pulling leftovers out of the fridge to prepare dinner, I will take a moment to put on my favorite Pandora station, don my apron and set the table. I will place my leftovers in a pan, allow them to gently heat and savor the aromas of leftover chicken and potatoes. Perhaps, I’ll sip a glass of wine after I close my planner and laptop. Then, I’ll sit and enjoy the food provided by Creator. In the midst of the seemingly boring, I will cultivate the lovely.

And through simple practices like these, I will rediscover the wonder and loveliness to be had in the glorious mundane.

Abigail Murrish / Posts / Blog
Abigail Murrish is an agricultural writer passionate about encouraging people to know their food, eat well, and show hospitality. Since her time at Purdue University, Abigail has appreciated talking with farmers (versus about them) to understand difficult agricultural issues and grow in her knowledge of the Christian call to steward creation. Abigail lives in Cincinnati, Ohio, with her husband, and blogs at abigailmurrish.com.
  • Heather

    Thank you, Abigail!
    I needed this reminder to “cultivate loveliness” and seek delight! ❤️

    February 27th, 2017 11:44
  • PamC

    Thank you for this reminder.

    February 27th, 2017 12:05
  • Angela Sackett

    Abigail!! Every time I come join the table at GraceTable, I’m in awe of how God’s brought me to connect with women who are like-minded, connected to the same thoughts and passions He’s been increasingly building in my heart over the last decade. When I saw you quoting this book today, I melted. I’ve been laughing out loud, highlighting in a frenzy, and reading snippets to my children, my husband, and any friend who would listen, from this very book over the last few months. Thank you for the sweet and simple reminder that it’s in appreciating what God already created, that we step out of the mundane and into the holy. Sending a digital hug, sister!! (And I’m a Floridian-raised-Hoosier-back-to-Floridian-New-Jersey girl, so small world!! 😉 )

    February 27th, 2017 14:56
  • lynn

    To find beautiful moments in the mundane…yep, need to get out of my rut too!

    March 9th, 2017 15:16
  • Edna Davidsen

    Dear Abigail Murrish

    Thank you for sharing “Fighting Boredom With Loveliness” with your audience.

    Now and then we stop and think about our day-to-day life.

    Are we doing what we’re supposed to do?

    I loved the honest way you’ve written about being bored in this blog post.

    Interesting point from Robert about boredom not being neutral, I guess he’s right.

    You write about your to-do-list.

    As a side note, a little off-topic, I’ve switched from to-do-lists to what-did-I-do-list.

    That works better for me, and it’s like I get just as many things done that way.

    Perhaps it’s a universal truth that we cannot think ourselves out of boredom?

    I enjoyed reading your blog post.

    (PS: I agree with Angela Sackett, it’s always a pleasure to come by this blog and read a post or two)

    With respect
    Edna Davidsen

    November 20th, 2017 10:54

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